Should We Praise Children? The Answer for All Parents, Teachers and Carers

In this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker explores the hidden complexities of praise. While we often use praise to encourage positive behavior—whether in children, adults, or those we support in care—it can sometimes have unintended consequences. Could the way we praise actually increase anxiety, foster dependency on external validation, or even reinforce behaviors we aim to reduce?

Andy breaks down:
✅ When praise works—and when it doesn’t
✅ The difference between intrinsic & extrinsic motivation
✅ Why overpraising can backfire
✅ The best way to use praise to build confidence & autonomy

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Key Takeaways from This Episode

🔹 Not All Praise Is Equal – Empty praise or focusing on outcomes instead of effort can create pressure and anxiety.

🔹 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation – Encouraging internal motivation leads to long-term positive behavior, while excessive external praise can diminish self-motivation.

🔹 Overpraising Can Reduce Confidence – Saying “You’re so smart” may discourage a child from taking risks due to fear of failure.

🔹 Feedback Beats Flattery – Instead of “Good job!” try “I love how you kept trying even when it was hard.”

🔹 Encourage Autonomy – Ask questions that help individuals reflect on their own progress, rather than always seeking validation from others.

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📌 Key Timestamps

⏳ [00:00] – Introduction: The surprising impact of praise
⏳ [02:21] – Why praise isn’t always helpful
⏳ [04:46] – The science behind motivation & praise
⏳ [06:59] – How praise can unintentionally create pressure
⏳ [08:06] – Study on rewards & motivation: Why rewards can kill enjoyment
⏳ [10:45] – Growth mindset & process-focused praise
⏳ [14:12] – The hidden dangers of overpraising
⏳ [17:35] – Encouraging autonomy instead of dependence on external praise
⏳ [21:01] – The best ways to praise effectively

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