Fostering Growth: Mindset Shifts That Change Lives

In this powerful and deeply moving episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker speaks with Ousha Demello—a bestselling author, international speaker, and experienced foster carer. Together, they explore how fostering, trauma, and mindset intersect to shape the future of young people. Ousha shares her personal story of overcoming domestic abuse, the transformative impact of mindset, and practical strategies she uses daily to support self-worth, self-esteem, and growth in the children she fosters.

Whether you're a parent, caregiver, teacher, or someone passionate about resilience and transformation—this episode is packed with inspiration, honesty, and actionable ideas.

🎧 Why Listen to This Episode?

If you've ever wondered how to build resilience in children, support healing after trauma, or shift your own mindset during tough times, Ousha's journey offers hope and clarity. You’ll discover how connection before correction, nurturing over control, and modelling the right mindset can make all the difference.

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📚 Resources & Links Mentioned:

• 📖 Left in Peace Not Pieces by Ousha Demello – Amazon UK

• 📘 Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge by Andy Baker – Order here

• 🧠 Influence by Robert Cialdini – Find on Amazon

• 🧭 Learn about the GPS mindset tool (Gratitude, Perspective, Service) from previous episodes

💡 Three Key Messages:

1. Mindset is a superpower – It's not what happens to us, but how we process it that shapes our story.

2. Connection before correction – Trust, love, and shared experiences are the foundations of positive change in children.

3. Language shapes reality – The words we use with others (and ourselves) can either build self-esteem or break it down.

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⏱️ Chapter Timestamps:

• 00:01:56 – Meet Ousha: From educator to foster carer

• 00:03:07 – Fostering, mindset & the invisible traumas children carry

• 00:06:03 – Domestic abuse and the mindset shift that changed everything

• 00:12:13 – Discovering purpose through mentorship & authorship

• 00:18:00 – Helping children reframe negative self-talk

• 00:24:03 – Language tips for caregivers: “I’m finding it difficult” vs “I can’t”

• 00:28:00 – Daily practices that reinforce growth mindset at home

• 00:32:00 – Cooking, play, and the power of everyday connection

• 00:36:00 – Why “because” changes everything – language that builds cooperation

• 00:42:00 – Self-care through communication & support systems
  
  

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